"You will never influence the world by trying to be like it."
Don't know who said that, but it wasn't me.
Sometimes it's so easy to just go along with what everyone says and agree with them, or sit idly by. Sometimes it is important to speak up and stand up for what is right and what you believe in. The hard part is knowing when to do what. In this messed up world, it's so hard to see when other people are right and when you are right - especially when you are the only one that everyone is ganging up on. But if you just agree with them then you will never be able to change anyone's perspectives, or get them to think about things in a way that might actually be the right way.
I tried to forget the past. I tried to just wipe everything clean from my memory and forget all the hurtful things that this person has done to me. I thought I could just do that, without reconciling the issues first and just dropping the whole thing. But life doesn't work like that. My mind doesn't work like that. Even if I tried really hard to just forget about what happened, I would only be asking myself why I dropped it in the first place and build up more bitterness toward this person in the future. It's like noticing that there's a pebble in my shoe, but not taking it out because I'm too lazy or because I'm going to settle for kicking the pebble around my shoe before putting my foot on the ground.
Forgetting isn't forgiving. Instead of trying to avoid the conflict and sweep it under the rug, the only way a relationship can get better is by talking about it and actively working on trying to make things better. Reconciliation must happen - both parties have to be open and honest about what happened and really make the effort to love and understand each other. There is no running away and trying to avoid difficult situations. You will run into them, and you will learn. That is the only way to move forward. It's like playing a game; you can't skip to the next level without gaining enough experience required to move on. That task or challenge has to be overcome and completed to be able to level up. You need to make peace with the conflict, to resolve it so that your relationship can be mended and so your friendship can continue.
Anyway, what I learned was that sometimes there are people and things you just can't confide in and talk about. Even if you need help. That's hard because some of the people you're used to talking to or usually go to for advice don't always know what to say and aren't perfect. They make mistakes too and may accidentally or unintentionally slip out things that could be used negatively if heard by the wrong ears. It is better to only be involved with those who are involved and to seek advice carefully and with prudence. Sometimes sharing too much about something to someone will only make things worse because they are the wrong person to share that to, even if you intend for it to be in confidence. Sometimes the only being you can trust is God. When everyone is against you, or when you don't know who to turn to; that's when you have to be strong, that's when you have to realize that you can not be strong on your own and that you can only rely on God to give you the strength to carry on and do what is right and good.
God places people in our lives to help and encourage us, but sometimes these people won't do that for you because God wants you to seek Him directly in all circumstances. So He will remind you that He was the one who planted these people in your life, but He also wants you to know that He is ultimately the one we should look to in everything, as He is the only one who knows best.
Holy is Our God - Starfield
Esther 8 today.
Don't know who said that, but it wasn't me.
Sometimes it's so easy to just go along with what everyone says and agree with them, or sit idly by. Sometimes it is important to speak up and stand up for what is right and what you believe in. The hard part is knowing when to do what. In this messed up world, it's so hard to see when other people are right and when you are right - especially when you are the only one that everyone is ganging up on. But if you just agree with them then you will never be able to change anyone's perspectives, or get them to think about things in a way that might actually be the right way.
I tried to forget the past. I tried to just wipe everything clean from my memory and forget all the hurtful things that this person has done to me. I thought I could just do that, without reconciling the issues first and just dropping the whole thing. But life doesn't work like that. My mind doesn't work like that. Even if I tried really hard to just forget about what happened, I would only be asking myself why I dropped it in the first place and build up more bitterness toward this person in the future. It's like noticing that there's a pebble in my shoe, but not taking it out because I'm too lazy or because I'm going to settle for kicking the pebble around my shoe before putting my foot on the ground.
Forgetting isn't forgiving. Instead of trying to avoid the conflict and sweep it under the rug, the only way a relationship can get better is by talking about it and actively working on trying to make things better. Reconciliation must happen - both parties have to be open and honest about what happened and really make the effort to love and understand each other. There is no running away and trying to avoid difficult situations. You will run into them, and you will learn. That is the only way to move forward. It's like playing a game; you can't skip to the next level without gaining enough experience required to move on. That task or challenge has to be overcome and completed to be able to level up. You need to make peace with the conflict, to resolve it so that your relationship can be mended and so your friendship can continue.
Anyway, what I learned was that sometimes there are people and things you just can't confide in and talk about. Even if you need help. That's hard because some of the people you're used to talking to or usually go to for advice don't always know what to say and aren't perfect. They make mistakes too and may accidentally or unintentionally slip out things that could be used negatively if heard by the wrong ears. It is better to only be involved with those who are involved and to seek advice carefully and with prudence. Sometimes sharing too much about something to someone will only make things worse because they are the wrong person to share that to, even if you intend for it to be in confidence. Sometimes the only being you can trust is God. When everyone is against you, or when you don't know who to turn to; that's when you have to be strong, that's when you have to realize that you can not be strong on your own and that you can only rely on God to give you the strength to carry on and do what is right and good.
God places people in our lives to help and encourage us, but sometimes these people won't do that for you because God wants you to seek Him directly in all circumstances. So He will remind you that He was the one who planted these people in your life, but He also wants you to know that He is ultimately the one we should look to in everything, as He is the only one who knows best.
Holy is Our God - Starfield
Esther 8 today.
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